Whether you’re hosting a tea party or have been invited to one, you might be wondering what to wear. An afternoon tea requires a dash of daytime sophistication, but doesn’t have to be too formal - and you must always feel comfortable. Getting the balance right is not always easy, so here are some dos and don’ts to keep in mind, for both ladies and gents.

Ladies: Dos

A tea party is the perfect time to bring out a favourite dress or skirt and top. Embrace florals, pastel shades and pretty midi or knee-length cuts. You could also go a little retro with soft A-line shapes. Light, fresh colours such as cream, sage, baby blue, lavender or pale pink often work well. Subtle prints are also a good idea and all tea party outfits can be paired with elegant but comfortable shoes such as ballet pumps, wedges, kitten heels or jewelled sandals. You can also spruce up your outfit with simple and elegant jewellery - think pearls, stud earrings or a slim bracelet. A clutch or mini shoulder bag will finish the look nicely.

Keeping hair and make-up soft and natural brings a more casual feel to the occasion. Most tea parties take place during the day, so it’s important to look polished but not overdone. Focus on skincare, add a light blush and choose a soft lipstick or tinted lip balm. Hairstyles that work include loose waves, a low bun, half-up styles, braids or a tidy ponytail.

Ladies: Don’ts

While everyone is entitled to their own sense of style and fashion, tea parties are usually all about understated glamour. Try to avoid anything too tight or garish such as neon colours or vibrant prints. Stick to sandals or wedges rather than high heels or stilettos in case you have to mingle on grass. While you don’t want to be overdressed, it’s also important not to go too casual. Avoid jeans, hoodies, trainers or scruffy clothes.

Gents: Dos

For men, smart-casual is the best vibe for a tea party. Think chinos or tailored trousers with a crisp shirt, and keep colours soft too. If the weather is slightly cooler or the setting is more formal, then you could add a linen or lightweight cotton blazer. Smart shoes are essential, so opt for loafers or brogues and avoid trainers, particularly if they’ve seen better days. Accessorise lightly with a quality watch, a smart belt or minimalist jewellery.

Gents: Don’ts

Again, avoid anything too flashy or garish. There’s no need to wear a full suit or tuxedo to an afternoon tea, and colours are best kept muted. Equally, avoid shorts, sportswear and T-shirts with large logos or prints. Shoes should be clean and presentable rather than muddy and scruffy, and don’t go overboard on the cologne – heavy smells can be off-putting for your fellow diners.

Afternoon tea is a very British tradition. If you want to celebrate it in style this summer, don’t miss  The Tiger Who Came to Tea in London. Playing at the Theatre Royal Haymarket, this is one of the best children’s plays to enjoy as a family. Children’s shows are specifically tailored to a younger audience, so come along and join in the fun.